The pressure out there, I discovered as a mission president. He is a bestselling author … When he got to the door, he swore at me, and when he swore at me, the class cheered. To be loved? Think about, pray about this, I want you to really think about this. Human needs. In 1983 he co-founded the Franklin Quest Company to produce the planner and train individuals and organizations in the time management principles on which the planner was based. This gentleman here. Today? Sure enough, a runner came, gave him his telegram, report to the commanding general of regiment in London immediately. Everything we do is an attempt to satisfy one or more of these needs. And then served for many years as a counselor to a prophet in the 1st presidency. He said I’m just like that Airedale.” Then he turned to his companion, his companion’s name was Perry Drakes and he said “You know Drakes? His behavior met his needs over time. If Troy were to say that to his spouse, what has he just said to his spouse? Hyrum’s brother Joseph was also shot as he tried to leap from the second story jail window. 1st statement. Walks into class, teacher says “Troy, where’s your lunch pail?” “Oh man, I don’t believe it, I left it on the bus.” “You dummy that’s twice this week. We start telling ourselves that something’s wrong with us. Let’s suppose we have etched on our belief window this principle. Do you think that’s true? So that the results of all of your behavior are meeting needs and you’re feeling the peace and the relationship with God. The room was empty. The ends had been cut off the ham. At one particular zone conference there was the usual number of missionaries in the mission home there in London. Alright Dan stand next to Troy. Gave them ammunitions, money, supplies, guns, no men. They jump so high they hit their heads on the lid. I said sure. Because drugs are a temporary okay feeling. He had it on his belief window that everything was racial. Tell me your name. It’s not macho to lose an argument. You’re not trying. Now we start setting up specific rules for behavior. You know who you are. ” — Hyrum W. Smith “ Your governing values should be important enough to you that you will invest your time, resources, and energy in making them a fundamental part of your life. Maybe if somebody’d start loving her, and her needs were being met, then the drugs would stop.” “Yeah.” I gotta tell you , it was exciting. And I said “well – obviously these beliefs are driving the behavior, the results we know now, are not going to meet her needs over time, right? Not the smartest way, but you could do it that way.” I said “there’s another way, it’s called seeds and fruits. Took her a whole semester. He said it is our perception that we have a fairly serious problem, and as the US attorney’s office we’d like to do something about that. It even makes real exciting events like the dedication of the Kirkland Temple and Zion's Camp dull Somewhere in my growing up, I picked up that men are more valued than women. School doesn’t matter!” “That’s right! I called up a little while ago and asked if had some things and she said – “We ain’t got none of them.”” Now who is our window to the corporate world? There are corporate belief windows. He is the senior intern over Development and External Relations at the Madison Liberty Institute, the Director of Outreach for the Columbus Center for Constitutional Studies, and a senior at BYU-Idaho studying Financial Economics. And he has a different wife now, the other wife couldn’t do it, couldn’t have them. These kids walked into the room and it was a sight to see. I love them.” It’s magnificent. So I got on my belief window, men are a little better than women. Alright, Troy I need you up here now. Because in my opinion, you’ve got some really lousy principles on your belief window. In 1954 Eisenhower, President of the United States, had 2 principles on his belief window. How are you going to eat?” It was stone quiet. Take a look at your community, your family, and be willing to say “Father in Heaven I want to have the right principles on my belief window.” What if you had on your belief window, young men, that the priesthood gave you some extra power over your wife. One of the major examples he uses is how he helped high school students overcome drug and alcohol addictions. About a bad principle on his belief window. The Aryan. Can we tell what’s on her belief window?” And I said “give me some ideas. It was the lesser spirits saying “You really are going to go tracting this early? You know here you came from, you know who your father is. It was sliding back and forth, but it was making steady progress to the top. It’s not an arrogant thing, it’s a quiet powerful assurance of knowing who you are. That’s why the second principle of the gospel is repentance. And some day when you’re laden down with fruit, you’ll thank me for loving you enough to hurt you.” Well then he got back on his horse, rode away, forgot about the currant bush. Maybe to be important. Ok, would you stand right here Kristen? It’s got nothing to do with my self-esteem!” I said “why do you take drugs?” "Cause I enjoy it. C’mon. And the voice said “Little currant bush, I am the gardener here. We’d get a bucket about that deep, put it in the sand, go out in the ocean, get crabs, put them in the bucket. It’s the only way he could reconcile this. To feel important. Now I want you to write one more thing. She was not there. In this glass case was the most magnificent stuffed Greyhound dog I had ever seen. Cheat. Stand right here, just face this group. And I would like to suggest to you today I really think we can share something with you today that may make a difference. My behavior then – I’ll collect boyfriends. What need do you suppose is driving that principle? What’s wrong? The second belief on his belief window was you must never get in a land war in China. I said “alright, let’s take it through the model. They have to be Jews. And a man and woman together equally yoked, submit themselves to that power, equal. Let me go back to those 50 druggies, one of the most exciting things in my whole speaking career occurred. If that’s true then, and I am now married, and my wife asks me to do the dishes, what will Troy do? I found as a young bishop in Portland Oregon is that I used to attack the behavior all the time. Salt Lake City, Utah: Bookcraft, 1996. Well all of a sudden in 1939 he’s in a war with Britain, he wasn’t even able to make peace, and the Americans, they’re supporting the British. He’ll live up to those expectations. Your self-worth cannot be based on anything outside yourself. We had about 6 crabs in the bottom of the bucket, I was on my way back to the ocean, I looked into the bucket, and one of those crabs scrambling up the side of the bucket. That’s why none of us are all dressed in white today. Elder Hanks got up and he said “Now I’m not going to be able to hear from all of you, but there are a couple of you I’d like to hear from.” And then he pointed over to a great big elder sitting in the back of the room. Jump the extra inch? Alright, the next part of the model in your notes should be represented by a square, same size as the circle, a square. Jacob is a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Letter-day Saints. To teach the principle of this thing, of how we can feel about ourselves, and how we can make it better, let me share with you a couple of reasons why it tends to be poor, and then I’d like to share with you today a control model. What need do you suppose is driving that? For full functionality of this site it is necessary to enable JavaScript. If you know what’s on someone’s belief window, what can you predict about out here? Our receptionist. You know, something that you might hear out in the hall, or in the world, give me an example of a put-down. Here is the statement. Hyrum W. Smith is one of the original creators of the popular Franklin Day Planner, the former chairman and CEO of Franklin Covey Co., and the recognized "Father of Time Management". Alright. What need is driving that, do you suppose? Ok. Now Let’s suppose Troy is about 10. Someone came into the kitchen one afternoon, his wife was preparing dinner, she pulls out of the oven a big beautiful ham. Now I need the third element of our model. The man said come in, he walked in and he saluted smartly, he said “Colonel Brown, reporting his order”. He was able to stand up there and say “Lord you gotta forgive these people, they don’t know who I am. K? And I know what’s best for you. We have the needs that drive these principles. You know what you can do now? I started to believe it. I want to bear my witness to you today that the gospel of Jesus Christ was given to us so that we could place on our belief window true and correct principles that will bring into our lives, now while we’re alive in this life, the peace that we can have. How do we help her?” And boy the room got real quiet, because everybody in the room knew who this person was. And these 2 go with us to the assembly. A circle. Could be a combination of several. You’ve got the needs, the principles are etched on your belief window, and they are in fact driving your behavior. We kept them alive in the bucket. To live. What was repentance? Hyrum was one of the original creators of the popular Franklin Day Planner. Out of the 50. Right.” And then I said “well let’s see if we can find out what principle is on your belief window. I don’t have a blackboard, so I’m going to use a human blackboard. What was the highest race? Pretty quick the flea jumps away from the flame. And they get up in front of these high schools, 1500 young people in an auditorium and they start their talk by saying “I am a drug addict and an alcoholic.” And then there’s no problem after that of anyone listening in that assembly. And I’m not sure what that means, but if that’s true then, and I think I’m supposed to make a difference, and the US attorney asks me to go to the high schools in Utah, and talk to the kids about drugs, what’ll I do?” Half the class; “You’ll do it!” “That’s why I’m here.” “Well, are the results going to meet your needs?” “I don’t know. For the rest of this conference. Rules. That was what was on his belief window. K? I will leap tall buildings, I will get away. Your governing values form the true foundation for healthy self-esteem. I decided I could swim across a place called Hanamo Bay, I grew up in Hawaii, got halfway across, nearly drowned. Alright that’s a good example, that was just an example right? So what did Eisenhower do? Now, I want you to write down a statement. He said “In that 30 minutes you are to find a lesson of life from which you can teach something. Death. In fact, the first thing in your notes, if you are taking notes, write down an equation, high self esteem = high productivity. Let’s have this woman right here. Hurts a lot. And I said “over time, are the results of that behavior going to meet your needs?” And I said to him, I said “I’m not here today to tell you what to put on your belief window. He believed that. You think that’s on anybody’s belief window out there? Stopped conversation for 3 days. It’s a put-down. All dogs are vicious. Hyrum Smith gave a great talk, and I was so impressed that I bought his book, The 3 Gaps. The first need is to live. Maybe you could look at somebody who planted that seed themselves, see if it met their needs, could we do that?” “Yeah, I guess you could do that.” “Give me an example of somebody that drank, all their lives, and took coke all their lives, and it met their needs, over time.” First example – Elvis Presley. Our behavior was inappropriate. Tell me your name. Buy a cheap copy of The Advanced Day Planner User's Guide book by Hyrum W. Smith. Now understand this fact. After the opening prayer and opening song Elder Hanks got up and did something he had never done before, he said “I feel impressed to do something we have never done before. People were come into my office, I was a young bishop, people would come in and I’d find myself wanting to say – “you did what?” And I can’t say that, so I sit there and I’ve heard this a hundred times, and what I find myself wanting to say was – “you gotta stop doing that, that’s lousy behavior.” And as long as I was attacking the behavior, do you think that ever stopped? Kristen represents the left edge of this control model. Now did the results of that meet our needs? It’s like a wheel, because this circle drives the rest of this model. How long did the thousand year Reich last? Somehow you got it on your belief window that you must not lose at games. He gets 47 more put-downs. He said “As I was walking out the side doors my eye caught a glass case. Hyrum W. Smith is the founder of Franklin Quest Company and hosts seminars focused on productivity and belief. “You idiot, we covered that yesterday.” You know how long it took me to get her to ask another question in that class? Now here is how it works. Why? The least expensive we can get. And the behavior is she’s taking drugs. Since October we have gone to 38 or 39 high schools, a few junior high schools, and put on this 90 minute assembly. That means I must be able to make peace with them, they won’t fight me, because we’re all Aryans. He couldn’t figure that out. That laugh was putting him down. The following information is from– Smith, Lucy Mack. I was almost as high as the apple trees, I was becoming a beautiful bush, you cut me down, why have you done this to me? Well if you’ve ever read anything from President Kimball about priesthood, priesthood is a power. And this kid here was my belief window. I’ll win. And for some reason it was just really important to him to have 12 kids, so he had 12 kids. What are the missionaries asking of the people of the world when they knock on the door? People don’t like that. And the principle was – we want to have the finest reputation in America, period. But I can’t promote you.” As he said that, a phone rang in the next office, he said “would you excuse me a minute.” He got up and went back into the outer office. While he was praying, the issue was meeting in the next room. Hyrum Smith was killed instantly as a “ball” passed through the wooden jail door, striking him in the head–this, as Hyrum forcefully pushed against the door trying to keep the malicious mob from entering. Have you ever seen a young person walk into somebody’s house, see a dog, and go nuts? Suppose you’ve got it on your belief window somewhere that your self-esteem is linked to not losing at games. Do you have any idea how devastating that is? I know Rex. The book is worth buying just for this section, which is … I started walking them through this model. One of them was, you fight communism wherever it surfaces. Hyrum W. Smith is the cofounder and former chairman and CEO of Franklin Covey and the cofounder of 3Gaps, a personal and organizational training company. There, she ran into her cousin, Julie Taggart, who told her she had left The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, founded by Joseph Smith, the brother of Ida Smith's great-great grandfather, Hyrum Smith. I’m going to be a general. SALT LAKE CITY, UTAH -- In Saturday's Salt Lake Tribune, Franklin Covey co-founder Hyrum Smith talked about his new book, "What Matters Most" and about his struggle back from his … You know that beautiful young beehive – remember when you were beehives, ladies? A good business management principle is you always cut costs. End of conversation. But there are cultural belief windows. Right if that’s true then, and it’s now time to hire a receptionist for the Franklin Institute, what kind of a receptionist will we buy? You might even add the word action. This is a statement by President Kimball. K? 2 of the 3, since the movie was filmed, are still what we call dry, I think they have 19 months behind them of being dry of alcohol and drugs, the 3rd young person in the movie didn’t make it, and he tried to commit suicide here a couple weeks ago because after 20 months of no alcohol he went and got drugs and got plastered with coke and decided it wasn’t worth living and he started killing himself, and it was sort of a sad experience, but the other 2 so far are making it. Let’s say we have a principle on our belief window that all doberman pinchers are vicious. Ok Dan, come back here. Or it’s not their heads they hit, whatever they hit, they hit it on the lid. Suppose you have on your belief window, that all teachers are mean. I’ll tell you why. He’s gotta help. Then he said “You know as I stood there thinking about that work contest, a third thought came to me.” And when he said third thought, he came up to his full height. Rex is the belief window. Now brothers and sisters I bear my witness to you, He is the gardener here, and He knows what’s best for you and He is standing at the citadel of this religion, this universe, begging us as sons and daughters of God, to link our self-worth to Him, and put on that belief window correct principles. You do not have to take your companion.” That got our attention fast. I’m trying to solve a need back here. So maybe that’s an incorrect principle. He decided that Winston Churchill and Roosevelt were Jews. Troy is going to be out here just to the left of Michell, represent Troy with another box. Alright, these needs are powerful needs. He comes in here stone faced and he says “I’ve got a question I want to ask you and then I’ve got a thing I want to take through your model.” And I said “ok. I do productivity seminars now all over the world, and I have discovered, from some very interesting studies, that there is a causal relationship between our self-worth and our productivity. Anything but a VW. When we’ve made the mistake, we’ve gotta come back. There are some of the kids in this high school that do in fact have an alcohol and drug problem, would you spend the hour with them? Now what’s driving that behavior? If that’s true, then it’s now time to go to school and do well in school, what will your behavior be in school?” In one voice – “We won’t go to school! Brown and a friend of his. And if they’re not, do I have what it takes to identify the incorrect ones and replace them with right ones? Fight communism anywhere, so what does he have to do? And he said in my simplicity I knelt down and I said, “little currant bush – why are you crying?” And he said “you know I imagined I heard the currant bush answer back.” And the currant bush said “I thought you were the gardener here. Is your network connection unstable or browser outdated? When I was in California as mission president I heard a speech by a wonderful human being, a man by the name of Lloyd Moffit, who was one of my stake presidents, is now – is he still a regional? And that’s what they were called by the faculty, druggies. You’re right, you’ll do that, and that’s what you’re doing, right?” “Yeah.” “Well are those results going to meet your needs – suppose you’re alive in 15 years! Because the principles on our belief window start to drive what Michelle represents, would you label the box that Michelle represents, rules. A great-great-grandnephew of LDS Church founder Joseph Smith, Hyrum is the namesake of Joseph's brother, Hyrum.